The choice is yours
A friend of mine on Facebook posted recently that she was going to make an effort to stop saying "I don't have time for..." and instead replace it with the phrase, "I choose to..."
I absolutely love this idea and it's something that I've been thinking about quite a bit lately.
Nobody has time for everything. Everyone chooses how to spend their time. But that subtle difference in phrasing (both mentally and verbally) completely changes one's perspective.
I don't have time for... implies that we are victims of circumstance.
I choose to... allows us to take ownership for the choices that we make which ultimately shape our lives. Even things that we feel bound or obligated to do are things that at some point we made the choice to pursue.
"I don't have time to volunteer because I have to work," becomes "I choose to support my family," or "I choose to pursue my passion."
"I didn't have time to get the grocery shopping done," becomes "I chose to renew myself with a book," or "I chose to give my time to a worthy cause."
"I don't have the money to..." becomes, "I choose to save for..." or "I choose to spend on..."
Each day is full of choices and we don't need to make excuses for what we don't do- we need to embrace our choices. Be proud of what you say yes to. At the end of the day I hate to look back and think about the list of things that I didn't get done. I'd rather focus on what choices I made that made me happy and best served my family during this day.
Lately I've been choosing time outdoors, time with my family, time cultivating and renewing friendships. I've been choosing to commit to keeping order and tidiness in my house. I've been choosing yoga, and running, and the occasional frivolous pedicure. None of these are excuses for things that are not getting done. These choices reflect my values and I am proud of them.
I'd love to hear what you're choosing to do lately.