We are coming up on our 3 year mark in our current location, and I am pretty sure that is the longest that we have lived anywhere. So it's understandable when I say I am starting to feel restless. With my house, that is, not with my marriage :)
I'm feeling restless, but also kind of stuck, because we're talking about moving again soon. So I'm finding myself annoyed by all of the little things in my home, but reluctant to make any changes because I don't see the long term payoff. We rent, so I feel limited in what changes I CAN make, but regardless of that, I don't feel particularly motivated to put a lot of heart and soul into something (like a stenciled wall) that I won't get to enjoy for very long.
In talking to friends of mine, I realized that I am not at all alone in this feeling. I have lots of friends who rent and feel similarly trapped. I also have friends who own and think about moving "someday," who are equally unmotivated to invest in a project they won't get to take with them.
It's easy to think to yourself: Why buy furniture for a room, when it might not work in our new place? Why worry about landscaping when we won't be here to enjoy it next year? Why spend the effort on paint if our landlord will make us fix it before we leave?
The common theme in everyone that I talk to is that we all seem to end up staying in our homes longer than we thought we would. We've already renewed our lease more times than we initially planned, and still haven't actually decided for sure that we will be moving at all. Our friends that were going to sell a few years ago, still haven't put their house on the market. One year turns into two, two years turns into four. The projects that we all wish we would have done, absolutely would have been worth it if we hadn't mentally moved out before we even moved in. Isn't a few hours of your time worth it if it makes you smile every day?
I'm working on a brainstorm list of things that we all CAN do in any housing situation, no matter how temporary, and I'm also working on mentally moving back into my home so I can enjoy our final (?) year here as much as ever.